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1月14日

For Both Men and Women: Signs you are in an Abusive Relationship

When You Should Get out: Signs you are with an Abusive Partner

All the reasons for women and all the reasons for men as stated in the first two articles "For Men 10 Signs you are in a Mediocre Relationship", For "Women: 10 Signs you Are in a Mediocre Relationship" actually apply to both men and women.

You want a relationship that is meaningful and that you enjoy being in. You don’t want a relationship with someone if you dread the upcoming holiday with that person, not knowing if you are even going to enjoy being with that person. You also don’t want to be with that person if you are just plain old not getting along.

It is hard to know exactly when to give up on a relationship. There can be great times and difficult times in most relationships.

The true test of a relationship I believe is when you can make it through the holiday times and then you still want to be together. If you do not…then you know that maybe it is just not the right relationship for you.

These are some of the signs that you are in a bad relationship:

You Feel Put Down By Your Partner
You Feel as though your thoughts, feelings, and opinions don't matter.
You and your partner have nothing in common.
You both live separate lives.
You really don't love each others.
You are only together for the sex, to fill a void, to not be alone.
Your partner does not appreciate the things that are most about you (i.e. your hobbies and interests.)

If you are in a relationships you may also feel controlled by the other person, as though you cannot make your own decisions or think for yourself. You may also feel that you have no right to any privacy at all, or that you are being abused in some way verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically.

Sometimes people say things that they do not mean from time to time. However, if it occurs too often you or that person may need to make a change.

Sometimes it may be you that is getting angry, and you may not necessarily hit the other person. However, you say things you don’t mean because you may not really want to be in the relationship. You may say those things in order to try to push that person away.

If that is you, just walk away from that relationship peacefully. Otherwise, they you could hurt the other person more. This is true if that other person is hurting you as well. There is no reason that an undesirable relationship needs to continue.

A Person's Work as a Practical State of State of Single-mindedness

The Single Worker Has a Purpose

I have mentioned in another blog entry that that being single won’t get you to heaven. Rather, there is a practical way to enjoy being single, and a productive way to be single-minded.

One of the most obvious examples of practical single-mindedness is the hard-working executive woman. Often she yearns for a home and a family yet she also enjoys sitting in a conference room along with other tailored-dressed men and women.

The single man also can enjoy a practical state of single-mindedness as well. Sure, we all know he is a person driven to succeed, and that often money is not an obstacle to building a happy home. It may just be that he enjoys part-time romantic company by firelight knowing that he is not obligated to stay with her for the rest of his life.

Both single men and women can take the time to climb the social and corporate ladders at will when they are single. Although work is not everything, no one cannot help but feel elation at even the littlest milestone of corporate success. This is one type of practical single-mindedness that serves a purpose.

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8月7日

For Men (And Women as well): 10 Signs you are in a Mediocre Relationship

This article is shorter than the one for women ("Top Ten Signs You Are in a Mediocre Relationship"), because it is more self-explanatory, and someone saying some of the same things.

It is also short because men have a tendency to be brief and will probably appreciate the shortness of this article. (Correct me if I am wrong, if you are a man.)

Signs of a bad relationship include the following:

You never agree on anything.
You are not attracted to one another
She complains all the time-or you do
All you do is have sex and do not go anywhere or do anything.
You and your partner isolate yourself from the world-no contact with friends, family, or work associates.
Your or your partner is physically, emotionally, sexually, or mentally abusive.
You don’t love each other and you know it.
You are just together for the sex, money, companionship, etc.
You feel lost, meaning you do not know who you are anymore.
You feel unappreciated all the time.

For Women: Ten Signs You Are In a Mediocre Relationship

For Women: Ten Signs You Are In a Mediocre Relationship

This article is derived from my own personal experience. I hope it helps some women out there wanting and needing love-true love!

Ten signs that you are in a mediocre relationship include the following:

1. You’ve been dating almost two years and your boyfriend still doesn’t want to come to your parents’ house for the holidays.

2. A guy refuses to come to your front door, regardless of the circumstances.
Even if you had an encounter with the neighbor before you dated that he knows about, your man should (in my personal opinion) be willing to come to your front door when arriving to pick you up for a date.

Even if maybe you should have kept close encounters of neighbors a secret, there is no reason why he cannot still value you as a person. What happened before you and he were together is technically only as much business as you are willing to reveal to him, and he should not judge you so harshly.

3. He makes excuses why he cannot come over.
He acts funny at the mere suggestion of you and him riding together, yet he always welcomes you into his home. A man who does this is one who wants everything on his terms and has little interest in you/your life/friends/family.
4. You feel you need to write an article such as this one out of pure revenge.
This is actually a joke, but hey…it could actually help you to vent if you write an article like this. You may not want to put your name on it though.
5. He treats you as though you are not good enough.
You might notice he will not come over to your house, meet your family, or take interest in your life at all.

However, you notice him putting quite a bit of energy in other things, such as helping other women move, or spending more time with his family than you. He may even go as far as to invite you places, but never want to go where you want to go.

6. Deep down in side you know you could do better

. If you really believe you can do better it is probably true. One word of caution, however, is this: the grass is not always greener on the other side. Therefore be very careful who you date.
7. He only takes interest in things or people that are important to you that will benefit him the most.
For instance, you notice that your boyfriend is unwilling to meet your mom-even after you tell him she is the best cook in the world, and can make his favorite dish.

However, he’s more than willing to meet one of your friend’s boyfriends, who owns a studio, a boat, or had other professional connections. A man like this may be only interested in whatever will advance his career or social status and not even give a "hoot" about you.

Note:

You may have even thought to yourself, oh he is finally taking an interest in my life, because he has met my friends. But really it is not about you, it is always about him-especially if you have dated him a couple of years and he is still reluctant to meet your family.

Even if your family has problems, you deserve someone to show interest in your mom, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, or whoever you are close too. The only possible exception as far as meeting family is concerned is not to expect your boyfriend to want to meet someone you do not get along with at all.

Even then, it should be your choice to decide how you feel about that familial relationship, and it would be ideal to have a man to support whatever you decide to do.

8. You broke up with him at least once because you felt rejected by him.

This rejection could possibly be imaginary, but it could possibly be real. Use your instinct, and if you constantly feel that way either get counseling, break up with him and move on, or both.
9. You broke up with him because he doesn’t seem to understand you, read you, or to be concerned about your innermost thoughts or feelings.
Just like feelings of rejection, these feelings can result from your own imagination, or they could vary well be real.

Use your strongest instinct, and do not settle for second best. You want to be loved, and you want to be understood, and there is nothing wrong with that.

10. You broke up with him at least once because he is self-centered, and thinks the whole world revolves around him.

(i.e. everything is all about his family, what he wants to do, what he wants to eat, where you travel to).

If you are in a crappy relationship he will also make excuses why he cannot take long trips, yet you know that he has taken some long trips without you. Oh, yeah…that’s right I almost forgot…perhaps he is willing to take you on a long trip but only where he wants to go when he wants to do it-even if you offer to pay for the whole entire trip.

You are definitely in a not-so-good relationship if all the activities that you plan are centered on him, or indirectly related to him. There is no room for you and your interests at all, or very little. He even jeopardizes all the attention when you are out with your friends.

If you are in this position, and are sick and tired of it…well…it’s easier said than done…but as soon as you have the courage…let him go and be careful not to jump into a new relationship too soon. You could end up with the same exact person.

Then, when the time is right, hopefully you will meet the kind of person who at least pretends he is interested in you.

Better yet, hopefully you will meet someone who is actually good enough for you. If you do meet someone who really wants you and he shows it…marry him not the one you have now!