Men and women both do it all the time. They want to see if their partners care about them, so what do they do? Take one wild guess.

If you guessed that they try to make each other jealous you have guessed right. I have had it happen to me all the time, and I am ashamed to confess that I-well at least subconsciously-have made others jealous.

Why the "Make the other Jealous" Tactic?

Truthfully it is a major sign of immaturity. The person cannot just simply come out and ask...'do you care about me' instead of playing their passive aggressive games.

What Exactly is the "Make the other Jealous" Tactic?

It is when the person tells you he or she spent time with someone of the opposite sex, and they try to go on and on about what they did with that person. It may be as innocent as just going to the store or as extravagant as going on a date with another and spending the night with someone else.

Making another person jealous often does not involve extramarital or extra-relationship sex. Rather, it is the intend to make it look to the partner like he or she did or will do so soon.

Exploring the "Make Each Other Jealous" Tactic on a Deeper Level

Often times people do that immature B.S. out of pure frustration. However, sometimes they do it because they are afraid. They are afraid of being laughed at, ridiculed, criticized, or insulted by their partners.

It's not that when a partner makes the other jealous they are making life any easier for them selves. However, the reason why they are often afraid is because they do not want to fear their thoughts and feelings will be disregarded again. Therefore, they often are at wits end and they will do whatever they can to get the other person's attention.

For Those on the Receiving End of the "Make You Jealous" Act

If you are a victim of the "Make You Jealous" tactic don't show any emotion. That may seem cold-hearted.

However, if your partner or spouse calls and says 'I spent all night at (insert name) house' just say "Okay". And then act as if nothing happened.

You are not responsible for reading that person's mind or having to fish for reasons why that person is mad at you all the time. So, just say your polite or even mushy goodbyes and then...

Just wait for that person to call you. If a few days go by he or she may be wondering why you have not called and then they will ask you. This is a good time to tell them that they can just ask you if you care about that person.

If The Victim of the "Make You Jealous" Tactic Needs to Change Too...

Your immature partner may have his or her set of problems. However, remember so do you.

Perhaps you need to practicing better listening skills or you need to try to make more of an effort to truly get to know your partner. More importantly, when another individual brings up an important concern in a relationship it is not always because they want to "pick a fight".

They may genuinely have an issue with you. And that issue needs to be resolved before the relationship can grow. If it is too huge to solve right away at least your partner needs to see that you at least are willing to discuss the issue, whatever it may be.

If Things are so Bad...

Well...there comes a point in every frustrating relationship where you have to decide whether or not you can handle it or not. If not then you either have to find a way to deal with it or move on.

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