I agree with this article, especially about the part referring to women no longer setting their bars high. That is exactly what happened to me lately as I got lonelier and lonelier.

Women need to be careful because otherwise they could wind up with nothing but emotional scars and the possibility of getting an STD. If they are not careful then could also just wind up in a relationship that is way beneath them.

I would also add by saying that if a woman decides to lower the bar it is basically saying she does not have an self-respect. It is saying that she does not deserve a many who truly cares about her as much as he cares about himself.

I am not going to promise that I will always "Think Like a Man." However, I will say that there is some value in learning how men think.

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Talking about Steve Harvey's Dating Advice for Women
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Usually "sugar daddy dating" applies to older men dating younger women. This may be for reasons of sex (or money for the "sugar babes" they spend time with). However, it often is just because they feel good hanging around younger women, and the women don't seem to mind. "Real Sugar Daddy" applies to an online dating service that caters to this type of dating.

Advantages of "Real Sugar Daddy" Dating

The advantages of this type of dating applies to both why do to it online and why "sugar daddy dating" in general. "Real Sugar Daddy" dating often takes place for one of the following reasons:

• Men (the "sugar daddies") women (the "sugar babes") are both seeking for something or someone better. So you say doesn't everyone want something better? Well, yes but usually this type of dating pertains to well-established men seeking out exceptionally beautiful and/or talented and sophisticated women.
  
• They are looking for a more "whole" or "sane" person. They may also be looking for someone with less drama and who is more "together" either financially or emotionally.
  
• Perhaps Real Sugar Daddy daters are people who just want to hang out with a more intelligent person. For instance, they may seek someone who is more into the arts, has seen the world, or is eager to learn.
  
• Other people who may seek dates on a site like Real Sugar Daddies.com may simply be looking for a way to feel better about them selves. If it is a man they may feel better when they are arm in arm with a sexy woman. If they are a female they may enjoy riding around with a man who owns a luxury vehicle.

Disadvantages of "Real Sugar Daddy" Dating

The main disadvantage is the looks and stares you may get from other people. They may be jealous that you have it all or they may think people who date outside their normal age range are just using each other. Quite a bit of stigma surrounds the concept of Real Sugar Daddy Dating. However, if you truly desire the best in life and this is the way that you think you can find it, who cares what others think?

What matters the most is that you are happy. When it comes down to it, no matter where you meet your next date you cannot choose who you like. Even more importantly for some is the fact that you cannot choose who you fall in love with.

Real Sugar Daddy dating is a suitable whether you are just looking for a part-time companion, or whether you are searching for someone to share your whole life with. It does not guarantee you happiness, but for some it is a step in the right direction.

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Note: Apart from getting "Knocked Up" (at least in most cases) this article can apply to a man as well.

I believe in a hand up to be able to make a better life for myself. I also believe that there is no substitute for hard work when it comes to achieving financial stability.

However, I have often felt as though every time I try to get help I just fall through the cracks. Yes, I can receive financial aid to go to back to college and so on and so forth, and probably will do so soon.

Not Getting "Knocked Up" Should be Rewarded

However, I often have felt overlooked being a single woman with no kids. Worse yet, I have often felt penalized by the federal and state governments for being responsible and not having a child.

It seems far easier for women who have children to receive help than it is for a low-income single woman who does not have a child. I do not think that is right at all.

Although I am conflicted about the government being too involved in my business, I think that I should be able to receive some type of medical assistance even if I am not considered disabled.

I think that women-and men also-who are hard workers should at least be able to receive some type of medical assistance. At the very least they should be able to go to the doctor and receive check-ups and not have to wait until they have a medical emergency.

Prevention is Better and Less Expensive

Regarding receiving some type of medical assistance for regular checkups, I think it would save the government plenty of dollars in the long run. The government would be less likely to have to fork out money in the event someone becomes incapacitated as a result of a medical emergency.

I think more singles should be concerned about this. I don't think the government should do everything for us, but I do think that they we should receive a hand up such as medical insurance, say if we work consistently 30 hours a week for a given amount of time.

Men and women both do it all the time. They want to see if their partners care about them, so what do they do? Take one wild guess.

If you guessed that they try to make each other jealous you have guessed right. I have had it happen to me all the time, and I am ashamed to confess that I-well at least subconsciously-have made others jealous.

Why the "Make the other Jealous" Tactic?

Truthfully it is a major sign of immaturity. The person cannot just simply come out and ask...'do you care about me' instead of playing their passive aggressive games.

What Exactly is the "Make the other Jealous" Tactic?

It is when the person tells you he or she spent time with someone of the opposite sex, and they try to go on and on about what they did with that person. It may be as innocent as just going to the store or as extravagant as going on a date with another and spending the night with someone else.

Making another person jealous often does not involve extramarital or extra-relationship sex. Rather, it is the intend to make it look to the partner like he or she did or will do so soon.

Exploring the "Make Each Other Jealous" Tactic on a Deeper Level

Often times people do that immature B.S. out of pure frustration. However, sometimes they do it because they are afraid. They are afraid of being laughed at, ridiculed, criticized, or insulted by their partners.

It's not that when a partner makes the other jealous they are making life any easier for them selves. However, the reason why they are often afraid is because they do not want to fear their thoughts and feelings will be disregarded again. Therefore, they often are at wits end and they will do whatever they can to get the other person's attention.

For Those on the Receiving End of the "Make You Jealous" Act

If you are a victim of the "Make You Jealous" tactic don't show any emotion. That may seem cold-hearted.

However, if your partner or spouse calls and says 'I spent all night at (insert name) house' just say "Okay". And then act as if nothing happened.

You are not responsible for reading that person's mind or having to fish for reasons why that person is mad at you all the time. So, just say your polite or even mushy goodbyes and then...

Just wait for that person to call you. If a few days go by he or she may be wondering why you have not called and then they will ask you. This is a good time to tell them that they can just ask you if you care about that person.

If The Victim of the "Make You Jealous" Tactic Needs to Change Too...

Your immature partner may have his or her set of problems. However, remember so do you.

Perhaps you need to practicing better listening skills or you need to try to make more of an effort to truly get to know your partner. More importantly, when another individual brings up an important concern in a relationship it is not always because they want to "pick a fight".

They may genuinely have an issue with you. And that issue needs to be resolved before the relationship can grow. If it is too huge to solve right away at least your partner needs to see that you at least are willing to discuss the issue, whatever it may be.

If Things are so Bad...

Well...there comes a point in every frustrating relationship where you have to decide whether or not you can handle it or not. If not then you either have to find a way to deal with it or move on.

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Regarding Point: "No Short Shorts Allowed-At All"

 

Quote: Yes, Madonna is 49 years old and she’s wearing hot pants [short-shorts], but let’s face it: You’re not

Madonna!"

My Response:

All I can say is what the hell is that supposed to mean? I am in my mid-30s and still single. Heck if I am 50 and still single and I want to look sexy I will do that.

I mean, older single women need to keep up their figure in order to be able to find someone later in life. Give me a break. The competition is hard enough!

Granted, I don't know if I would wear short shorts when I'm 50. But not all 50 years old have wrinkly skin. I think if a person looks good wear it, if not don't. It should not matter what age you are.

I do, however like the sophisticated alternative suggested-a short casual skirt. I do agree with that. How about a compromise...skorts??

Regarding: "No Tie Dye or Grateful Dead Shirts at All"-What?! Come on!

My Response:

*I have seen men in their late 40s/early 50s do it all the time. What is so special about them?! I would say at least a tie dye or grateful dead T-shirt should be "allowed". Who are these fashion police anyway?

I petition for at least to be able to wear a tie-dyed t-shirt with a pair of plain or slightly-faded jeans. That is if tie-dye is still popular in about 15 years.

I think that some people do go overboard, with the ripped jeans, tie dye shirt, long earrings, and excess beads. However, tie-dye at any age when done right should be fine. I think it depends primarily on what type of people you hang out with as well and what profession you have.

Regarding: "No Ripped Jeans for over 35-Year Olds"

My Response

Well...all I can say is I think it should only matter how ripped they are and where. Besides, what if ripped jeans suddenly becomes sophisticated in the next few years for older women?

However, I must say I am not a huge fan of ripped jeans. I may embroider or glitterize the ripped spots in some of my older pairs. I love crafts anyway, and it will give me something to do if and when I ever have the time.

Regarding: "Light or Bright Colored Leggings"

My Response

Well, I must say I agree on this one. They would look goofy at any age-unless you are a clown or its still the 1980s. Enough said about that! You should see slide #5 of the ". . .Dress Your Age" article.

Regarding Other Misc. Tips: "Don't Overdo the Ruffles, Watch Midriffs, Off-the-Shoulder Shirts, and Sheer-over-Sheer"

My Response II think what matters most is what looks great. That should be most important, versus the age issue. Also, some of the sheer stuff would like great-at least in the bedroom.

These tips actually should apply at any age. Actually I think most of the fashion tips at any age. (Come on, how many of you have seen older people a lot healthier and sexier looking than younger people?)

It is also recommended to watch level and or concentration of on the gladiator sandals, tan lines, sparkly make-up, platform shoes, and dark red lipstick. That is always great advice.

My Personal Addendum-Fashion has "Rules" At Any Age

What a person wears depends upon way more than just age. It depends upon which school you go to, whether you work at home or not (heck some days I don't even take a shower), or who you socialize with. (Not I said "socialize" and not "hang out" with, which is a more mature phrase.)

Therefore, though it is nice to have guidelines of what would be proper dress at a given age remember that these rules were made for a reason. In fact, I once heard a saying: "You have to know the rules before you can break them."

Indeed in the fashion world that is very much the case. Otherwise, we would have never heard of some of the biggest fashion design names today.  
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Regarding Point #1: "Tie-the-Knot-Trait 1: She's Exciting and Always Evolving"

 

Quote: "You know how every season finale of your favorite TV show ends with a million unanswered questions and you can't freaking wait for the next one? Well, a girl can give her guy that same thrilling mix of exhilaration and anticipation by surprising him...

"She does this by being spontaneous and a little unpredictable, taking on new interests all the time, and revealing different facets of herself," explains Alon Gratch, Ph.D., author of If Love Could Think. By never letting life get static, this woman busts the myth that being married means feeling humdrum. "She makes being with her an adventure, as if there's always a new idea or activity just around the bend," says Gratch."

My Response:

Good point...I realize that this is a quote from a book that the author of the article "Why Guys Marry some Girls" is referring to, and I have heard some of this before. I do agree and yet I feel I have done my part to prove that I am exciting enough. I have a variety of different activities I enjoy and I also would shudder to think of spending every waking minute with a man. I don't care how much I love him.

However...I like some of the other quotes as well, regarding that variety in a relationship is great. I usually am the one who has this problem with the men I date. So I must admit that I am a little shocked to realize men have this problem as well. However, I must admit that I think it can sometimes be very exhausting trying to come up with new ideas. I am not the only one in the relationship. Pa-lease, as I am a wonderful woman and I am tired of being taken for granted.

Regarding Point #2: "She Really, Really Loves Sex"

My Response:

I have mixed feelings about this point. I used to be a virgin because I wanted to wait until I was married. Either way, even though I have given in to this carnal pleasure I must admit I do really enjoy sex. I enjoy it best with someone I care a lot about. Someone I love. I cannot conceive of doing "weird positions" with someone I don't know that well-and believe me (sorry to admit) I did try that.

I am happy to be a sexual individual. However, I am worried that one person I loved very much has lost respect for me because of it. He made a comment saying that he "knows me too well" and that I am "more wild than he expected me to be."

I was not sure whether to take that as a compliment or as an insult. What did he think we were going to do after we were married anyway? One of the reasons I wanted to get married in the first place was so we could have sex, and I wanted it to be with a man I love, and someone I am good friends with.

As far as I know some men need to grow up, because they cannot have excitement all the time.  I want to have a relationship of not boredom but of quiet contentment. Personally, I am tired of drama. However, it doesn't mean I don't know how to have fun-in and out of the sheets.

I thought that liking sex more would help me, but I find it to be somewhat to my detriment. In fact, I think the fact that I do enjoy sex scares men. Some of them are the one with the problem, not me. (That's what they get for accusing me of the possibility of not being able to enjoy sex because of my "past.")

Tie-the-Knot-Trait 3: "She Makes It Clear He's Not Her Entire Life"

My Response

Good Point...I think I have more than proved this point. I have plenty of interests and hobbies apart from any primary partner I have ever had. I am actually very good at asserting my independence. I have not found someone yet who respects that.

However... I have pushed people away in the past and I am tired of the games men play. It seems that a lot of them are addicted to the chase. Then, when they get the woman they take her for granted. They make her feel bad just because she wants company, companionship, a relationship that is based on love and not just sex. I have yet to meet a man who wants me when he has me.

Tie-the-Knot-Trait 4: ...Yet She Still Conveys How Very Important He Is to Her

My Response

I have gotten a lot better at this the past few years, as I pushed away one man that I now believe really loved me. I now try to make sure I find a balance between showing that person what that person means to me and not being too needy.

I this this point is very very important:  

Quote:"Okay, so men dig independent chicks. But there's a fine line between being independent and acting aloof and detached. Guys settle down with a woman who regularly reveals her tender side and shows him that no matter what happens, she's got his back.

"Men view life as a struggle or war that they're fighting, and they want someone who'll be on their side at all times, through thick and thin," says Gratch. "This doesn't mean that a woman should mother him or assist him with every little detail of his life; it's more about consistently doing small, nurturing things that let him know you really care."

My Response I agree with those two paragraphs the most. I learned this lesson the hard way in the past few years, not realizing that the things I thought were important to me when I was younger would no longer matter now that I am older.

Tie-the-Knot-Trait 5: She Wants Him to Be the Best Man He Can Be

My Response

I like to encourage the man I am with to be the best that he can be. However, if he even expresses the slightest inclination that he thinks I am incapable of relationship, taking care of family, or having success in a career, I take revenge by shutting him out.

At that point I will tell him I have my own d*mn self to take care of and I have my own d*mn career to be concerned about. It is his loss if he wants to reject me. I realize, however, that I have to learn to be less critical and less pushy at times (or most the time.)

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MSN Travel's "World's Worst Worst Tourist Traps"  Slide Show Review

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I do agree that there are some very over-rated-or at least over-reported spots in the world that people "should go and visit." I myself am not a typical tourist, as I like to observe from more a writer and artist point of view. Therefore, I also am reluctant sometimes to visit the most touristy places in the world.

However, I also do think there is value in visiting overly-busy locations. For starters, it's all in the way you approach locations such as The Leaning Tour of Pisa, Times Square, and Wall Drug, or Faneuil Hall.

How to Tour the 'Right' Way

Experiencing the culture busy traveler's destinations involves more than reading engraved inscriptions or watching cheesy historical videos. It also requires more than just having a stranger break your camera trying to be kind enough to take your photos for you at visitors' sites.

I prefer to investigate thoroughly when I visit popular tourist places such. When I leave a place I want to know that I know more about a certain locality than the average tourist.

To me, traveling is just more than about getting away. It's a learning experience.

I will confess that under extreme situations, such as when a tripped is planned for me and I have no control over how much time I spend in a location, I do not always research thoroughly.

However, when I plan my own vacations I try to do my best to see what not everyone else sees, even if it is a very common tourist location.

According to MSN Travel: Places Considered "Tacky" and Why

(And How it They Don't Need to Be, Exceptions Included)

~The Leaning Tower Of Pisa (Pisa, Italy)-My first thought was that MSN Travel is right about this. I also thought at first who cares? Then I realized I care.

I have never even been to this place. So, of course I am going to want to go. Therefore, it is not tacky to me-as long as I learn something from the visit because how expensive the tourist T-shirts are.

There are so many questions that can be asked about this location. For instance, who had first settled in the area where the Pisa stands? Was it the Romans? Greeks? Who was it?

Then I would of course want to know how the tower could lean for so long without collapsing. Furthermore, I would want to know when it was built and why it was built, and so on.

(Maybe some of the above-mentioned questions are answered in canned historical media productions, but perhaps they are not. Either way, I hope I am making my point.)

Even if visiting Pisa, Italy would seem to be tacky, I wouldn't mind traveling half a day to see this tower if I lived in Florence, Italy. Hey, I'm from America, so my travel time would be much longer, but I would want to see it because I never saw it before.

~Times Square (Manhattan, New York, New York)-I had actually lived on Staten Island for about 8 months during 1994 to 1995. Therefore, I have been to Times Square many times day and night. In fact, I first arrived from the Newark, NJ port authority in a taxi to the Times Square location.

My stay in New York was was about 14 years ago, but I still remember it like i was yesterday. It is even more engrained in my mind since the days of the September 11th disaster. (The site of the 9/11 is not too far from Times Square.)

Times Square is considered tacky to certain people for reasons including these (my own observation): The bright Vegas-style lights, over-run Broadway and off-Broadway shows (my own observation, would have liked to been able to afford to see some of them), and tacky restaurants.

I notice also that none of the people I lived with on Staten Island wanted to go to Times Square on New Year's Eve. That was most disappointing to me. I wanted to at least go because it is just one of those "things to do" at least once in your life. (In fact going to

New York for me was also one of those "things I just had to do." If people look closely enough they can see that Times Square is full of culture, art, and history. Also, they have more than just commercial-run poor excuses for ethnic foods.

I have actually been to a view very good Middle Eastern Restaurants as well as vegetarian places while in New York. I never would regret visiting this place.

I would have only regretted visiting it if I had approached visiting New York and Times Square like a typical tourist. As I feel I was not. I didn't even own a camera at the time, and well...I must admit I would have at least liked to have taken pictures of Times Square and the World Trade Center.

But does that mean I am just a typical tourist? Not by any means. If I would have been smart, I would have taken pictures and later used them for photos for travel articles to write.

A Little Off Topic: About the Statue of Liberty

Apart from Times Square: I will say that while I lived in Manhattan I was debating the issue of whether or not I should have decided to climb to the top of the Statue of Liberty.

I feel a little bit like an American trader that I didn't because I have a tendency to be somewhat patriotic. However, I was a little chicken and was told the line to do so is two and one-half hours long.

So I didn't climb the Liberty. However, It was magnificent enough to me to be able to pass it at least a couple of weekends a month.

I absolutely loved the ferry ride as dirty as the Hudson River is. I also felt a sense of duty to know a little bit more about the country I came from. To actually witness places I only saw in movies previously.

~South of the Border (Dillon, S.C.)-Having been 'south of the border (not the attraction), and I must admit I totally agree on the sentiment of MSN Travel for this one. I have actually been to Mexico and it's possible that Mexican locals would consider this South Carolina attraction an insult.

On the other hand, people who want to have fun and some great laughs and shop for awhile wouldn't mind visiting this attraction. In my opinion, it is a place not meant to be taken very seriously. It is just meant for fun. By the way, a water park is located in the area.

~Madame Tussaud’s-This is a was museum in London. In it stands life-sized wax statues of famous celebrities, political leaders, performing artists, and movie characters. I don't understand what would be cheesy about this. I would go to this, and if I had children I would want to take them (as long as all the models are "decent").

There are also Madam Tussaud's locations in Amsterdam, Berlin, Vegas, and New York. From an artist and writer's point of view, I can appreciate the intricate detail of the models. Did you ever see how accurate they are?

I think visiting a wax museum is a very useful way to learn about the history of specific regions. It also is a unique way to learn about the culture of locations. I have nothing bad to say about this opportunity, as new statues are added periodically.

~Wall Drug (South Dakota)-This attraction blossomed from the small drug store that it used to be. Now it is a complete western-theme amusement park.

I can see how this would be a tacky tourist trap, and I honestly have never heard of this place until now. I don't think I would consider it an "authentic" place really. However, it would be fun for families to visit. Kids love this kind of stuff so families need places like this.

~Blue Grotto (Capri, Italy)-Probably the only reason I would not want to visit this place is because it seems to be very busy. I prefer more remote waterside destinations.

However, I would appreciate the beauty of the Mediterranean from this point, and I would enjoy the motorboat trip to the Grotto. It is not recommended for those who do not like the outdoors.

~Experience Music Project (Seattle, Washington)-This attraction contains an extensive collection of guitars. On the grounds science-fiction memoriabeli is also displayed. I think it would be most beneficial for those who are musicians and for those who appreciate popular music history.

I agree that perhaps it would be a little cheesy (about a 4, with 1 being the least cheesy and 10 being the most cheesy.) However, for musicians who want to know what it would be like to be inside a music studio this may the place to visit.

Also, for those who are wannabe musicians or those who just come to have fun, the studio can be entertaining. I think it would be recommended for either semi-professional musicians, families with children, elementary or high school music teachers, or just plain goof-offs.

~Fisherman's Wharf-This area is often inundated by tourists. Therefore, I can see MSN Travel's point. It is overrated. Moreover, the San Francisco Bay waterfront can be quite a beautiful place to visit. The biggest challenge would be to find a bare spot on the beach to pitch your beach towel or umbrella and chairs.

~Gateway Arch (a.k.a. "St. Louis Arch", Missouri)-I agree that this massive structure is impressive from the bottom up. It can be quite a rush to stand right next to one side of it and look up. I felt like such a small person in contrast to this monument.

I did not climb the top either time, but I probably would if I have enough money next time I am in the area. I took plenty of close-ups and far-away pictures of this semi-unique architectural structure.

However, I regret to say I no longer have them as it was before I owned a digital camera and was lazy about picture processing. The area inside the Arch provides visitors with extensive learning opportunities.

One of which is the enclosed Museum of Westward Expansion. Riverfront tours are available in this area as well.

~Faneuil Hall (Boston, Massachusetts)-This is an area lined with quite a few shops and restaurants.  However, I do not think this should stop visitors from viewing it.

The Faneuil Hall is a very important part of U.S. History. From an artistic point of view, I can say that the architectural style of this particular structure is very solid and sturdy.

Furthermore, it is rich with texture, trimmings, and decor characteristic of English markets. Several high-quality merchants are displayed in this famous marketplace.

Furthermore, several find places to dine are located in the vicinity. The trick is to know where to go and how to appreciate local Boston history. (In fact, I had

elected to walk the entire perimeter in Boston while I was on vacation there quite some time ago. So I know I can.)

An assembly hall is also located in Faneuil Hall  place where several historical political leaders such as Samuel Adams, John Otis, and others advocated American independence.

There is something about interesting historical places that cannot be avoided-typical tourist activity. When you look past this you can learn quite a bit about Boston while examining the Faneuil Hall and surrounding areas.

The Hall is a part of Boston's historical Freedom Trail. This is a route which contains Boston's primarily assembly gathering places as well as attractions based upon  Revolutionary War events and battles.

~Bourbon Street (New Orleans, Louisiana)-If you can look past the stumbling drunks and rows of strip clubs this may be an alright place to visit. Parents would need to take special care if they  have small children traveling with them.

On the other hand, persons who travel to this location can learn about why this street is called what it is. They can also appreciate the unique ethnic flavor of the area as many historical buildings are still standing here.

An upscale dining establishment called Galatoires is located on Bourbon Street. People often wait for hours to secure a table here.

Furthermore, visitors can witness various works of architecture still standing on this world-famous street. Among the most important is the large Bourbon Esplanade Marigny Allison (a downtown building). Others include the Bourbon Esplanade Weed Castle (local home), and Canal Street buildings.

I am surprised that the Eiffel Tower, Daytona Beach, or Disney World was not on the list of worst tourist destinations. However, I can see that MSN Travel has solicited responses from readers who have named various places, and it is most likely these are somewhere on the list.

If not, they will be soon because I am going to comment on them. Someone has to do it.

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The Fact that Misery Loves Company is True

One of the easiest things to do when you are lonely is to make it worse by also being miserable. Being miserable usually happens when you as a lonely person hang around someone who is very negative all the time. Usually the miserable person you are hanging around is your new boyfriend or your new girlfriend.

Signs of Negativity

The person you are hanging around expresses negativity in a variety of ways on a regular basis. For one, they may always be talking about the bad things their ex did to them, or how that person hurt them (the person you are now dating). Or, they may always be talking about how people cannot be trusted and why they are so skeptical about love.

What do Do about a Negative Person

Sometimes you might need to take a break from that person. You also may need to confront that person and say "hey I realize you are hurting and that you have issues and I want to try to understand you. However, sometimes I need to feel positive and just to enjoy life and have fun. You need to learn how to have fun."

After you have confronted the person, you may consider taking a few days, a week, or longer to allow the miserable person time and space. You will be amazed at the transformations that are made during this time.

What Happens when you Give a Miserable Person Space

Usually if a person who is miserable realizes he or she is affecting you that person will begin to become more positive at least temporarily. (You cannot expect them to be wonderful people all the time because people go through trials and tribulations all the time.)

The person who is down all the time will begin to realize that they are not the only persons on this earth. They will even thank you once they no longer feel rejected because you don't seem to love them for wanting to not be around them like that.

It may Not Always Work, But it's Worth a Try

Giving 'misery' space is not always going to work. Some people just never learn no matter how you try to deal with the situation. However, in most cases a miserable person will be able to adjust and expand his or her social horizons so they are not always dependent upon you.

When You Should Get out: Signs you are with an Abusive Partner

All the reasons for women and all the reasons for men as stated in the first two articles "For Men 10 Signs you are in a Mediocre Relationship", For "Women: 10 Signs you Are in a Mediocre Relationship" actually apply to both men and women.

You want a relationship that is meaningful and that you enjoy being in. You don’t want a relationship with someone if you dread the upcoming holiday with that person, not knowing if you are even going to enjoy being with that person. You also don’t want to be with that person if you are just plain old not getting along.

It is hard to know exactly when to give up on a relationship. There can be great times and difficult times in most relationships.

The true test of a relationship I believe is when you can make it through the holiday times and then you still want to be together. If you do not…then you know that maybe it is just not the right relationship for you.

      These are some of the signs that you are in a bad relationship:

• You Feel Put Down By Your Partner
• You Feel as though your thoughts, feelings, and opinions don't matter.
• You and your partner have nothing in common.
• You both live separate lives.
• You really don't love each others.
• You are only together for the sex, to fill a void, to not be alone.
• Your partner does not appreciate the things that are most about you (i.e. your hobbies and interests.)

If you are in a relationships you may also feel controlled by the other person, as though you cannot make your own decisions or think for yourself. You may also feel that you have no right to any privacy at all, or that you are being abused in some way verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically.

Sometimes people say things that they do not mean from time to time. However, if it occurs too often you or that person may need to make a change.

Sometimes it may be you that is getting angry, and you may not necessarily hit the other person. However, you say things you don’t mean because you may not really want to be in the relationship. You may say those things in order to try to push that person away.

If that is you, just walk away from that relationship peacefully. Otherwise, they you could hurt the other person more. This is true if that other person is hurting you as well. There is no reason that an undesirable relationship needs to continue. 

See Also:

Single People Vs. Married People-Who is Better Off?

How to Enjoy Being Stuck Eating Along at a Restaurant

I bet you might not even have thought of the good about being stuck eating alone. This list is just a few of those reasons:

• You always get to choose the restaurant. Think of all the potential relationships ruined as early as the first date just because you could not agree on what restaurant to go to.

• It's less embarrassing. For one, if you get food stuck in your teeth no one is around to care. Furthermore, you are exempt from the pressure of choosing the right place to eat while knowing nothing about the person you are with (if it were a first date).

• You don't have to worry about staring too long at the hot waiter or waitress. You can even possibly win a date out of the deal. However, beware of the possibility of not ever being able to eat alone again (smile).

• You can double-dip your bread, fries, or other hand-held food as much as you want. This is especially  helpful if you order a pizza or breadsticks with marinara dipping sauce or french fries. This special benefit is also good for French Dip sandwiches, fondue plates, and raw vegetable trays.

• The restaurant bill costs half as much. What a relief! Nothing more needs to be said about this.

• You don't feel obligated to nervously talk a mile a minute to impress someone. Besides, no one cares about most of the stuff you babble about on a first date anyway.

• You don't feel pressured to "put out" afterwards.  If you are sick and tired of worrying about the ulterior  motive of a date tonight you are on your own.

• No need to rush home to a house full of children. If you don't have any kids you also don't have a dinner deadline. You can stay in the restaurant for as long as you want, order as many drinks as you want and even go out afterwards.  

Single Vs. Marriage as a Choice-Contentment as the Key

Those that want to remain single are just as fine as singles, as married people are just as find as being married. Either way it is important for a person to be content.

If a person is not content, they need to either work hard to change in themselves what will make it possible for them to be content-whether single or married.

Questions to Ask Oneself Before Marriage

Those who are contemplating marriage should ask themselves as many questions as possible, such as the following:

Is it love? Do they see eye to eye? Do they have a stable healthy relationship based on trust?

How to Enjoy Your Single Freedom and Going Out Alone