I must admit some of the content of Catch Him and Keep Him by Chris Carpenter was hard for me to swallow at first. I took some of what he was saying in some of his newsletters related to this product personally.

However, after I stopped thinking, he is just attacking women; I must admit I have learned a few things from this production. Besides, I probably deserve a little bit of criticism after all the negative things I said about men in my lifetime.

What I learned from this Book (So far)

Men are different from women in how they choose a mate. What I never realized is that they pick a woman according to how he feels towards that woman. This may or may not be based on how she acts, but mostly is based on how she draws him into himself (emotionally).

My Response: That actually surprises me quite a bit. This bit of insight actually contradicts everything that I have ever heard about men. For instance, there is a huge stereotype that men do not have feelings and that they always make important decisions in a logical manner. This to me explains why oftentimes men wind up with women that are a little bit "bad" versus ending up with "the good girl."

Men do not choose a mate based on how many weeks, months, or years they have dated her. Again, it is mostly on how he feels inside towards that woman-how she "makes" him feel. In short, it is that the woman he is with makes him feel like a better person-or to want to be a better person.

My Response: I guess that explains why sometimes guys will approach women about getting married within the first few months of dating. I am ashamed to admit I "freaked out" when this happened to men about eight years ago. (Poor guy!) The problem is that women like me are the type of person who would base that decision "logical" conclusions.

For instance, I might evaluate a guy on the following: how well we get along, how long we have dated, whether or not I get along with his mother, etc. I honestly don't think I will ever change that about me. Sorry guys. However, it does give me a perspective on how guys choose a woman, which is good to know, and I will try to be sensitive in this area in the future.

I have also just learned lately that women often do things subconsciously to push men away. They may be afraid to open up to a man or they may open up to quickly. They might also present themselves as insecure with too much "baggage" and "guilt trips" attached to relationships. They might also be too hung up on where the relationship is going to enjoy it.

My Response: I think this is the hardest one for women to overcome. In defense of women, I can say it sometimes is because they blindly fall in love with men who make promises they do not keep. Women who have a low self-esteem or women who just for whatever reason are afraid of being hurt struggle with this issue.

It also could be because a woman may not want to waste any more time in relationships that are not going to work out. I myself probably would fall into the last category.

I have at times in my life taken breaks from relationships just to take time to heal for that reason. I think any woman who is hurting should take a break then later on they may be able to trust again.

I will share what else I have learned about this product in the next upcoming weeks. I hope that you can begin to learn from this production as well.

Precautions about this Material

The one major suggestion I have about this material for women is this: make sure you do not get too hung up on all your faults while viewing this material. Becoming too obsessed with everything you are doing wrong could also drive a man away.

Just take what you can use and do not spend too much time reading this material if you are currently caught in a slump and feeling sorry for yourself.

About the Content: If you are concerned about finding dating advice from a Christian perspective I must admit this is a secular book and thus contains references to sexual relationships from a seculiar (wordly) point of view. However, I still recommend it because it shows valuable information about men and how they think.

Catch Him and Keep Him!